Doing what I'm asked

I don't always find doing what I'm asked very easy... Okay. Let's be honest. I have a really hard time with it. ;)

Forever ago Thomas had ear marked the sale of his old junker/play car as my money for a ring I wanted. (It was a car someone just gave him for free. It ran - sort of!) An old mechanic bought it for his own toy this week.

Anyway, last night I'm looking at the ring online and I see another set I want of two rings. They were on sale, it was not much more money than the allotted car fund but I felt guilty. So I asked him.

This may not seem like a big deal "So I asked him." but for me it is. For most of our marriage I wouldn't have asked. I would have just told him I'd done it. I pay all our bills (He hates to pay bills) so I always know how much money we have, etc.

He told me he didn't think I should get them all. Order one ring, enjoy it. Then order another in a month or two and enjoy that one then. He didn't flat out tell me no. He even said "Go ahead if you really want to."

I waffled for awhile internally. I didn't say anything to him - although he knew I was struggling with it. I IMed Kelly - she was encouraging too.

Finally, I just ordered the one ring. For no other reason than I wanted to do what Thomas thought I should.

When I told him I'd just ordered the one ring, he leaned over, kissed me on the forehead and said "I'm proud of you for using such good self-control." (It was something like that. That's not quite how he said it.)

When he said that, it was worth it.

It's just an example of what Kelly said about the vegetable choices.

Getting or not getting the rings was not the important issue. My sweet husband rarely tells me no that it's important I listen when he gently does.

And I feel a little victorious too!

...and I WILL get the other ring later... ;)